Yossarian,
Its not mincing words. You have this idea that to be a darkworker you have to be a serial killer.
If that is kind of a cartoonish model then perhaps a more explicit model would be better?
So to try and make it more explicit that is mincing words?
Here is an example: Boundary issues. Have you heard that term before? You know how some people have boundary issues?
Often cult leaders have boundary issues, at the same time as preaching oneness and selflessness. So then they take liberties with all these selfless people.
Here is another term. "Negation" as in negating people. Often narcissists and sociopaths do things to negate other people. They do things to make other people feel as though they don't count. They do things to make people doubt themselves.
What is a good way to counteract these negative things?
Its by asserting yourself and your individuality. Its by being self reliant.
To me helping others is about helping people empower themselves. Assert themselves, be independant, express ther individuality.
If getting rid of the ego and being selfless is the end all be all then wouldn't it be god to let everyone walk all over you? Violate your bundaries and negate you?
Wouldn't that be doing people a big favor by helping them to see that their separateness is an illusion?
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