I think your concept of Polarity has changed for the better. You seemed to have switched your focus from superficial actions like giving or taking to intentions such as love or fear. This fits in well with impaul's model. Whether you think you are safe or not depends on if you are identified with your ego. If you really believe you are safe then you do not believe that what you can see, touch, and feel is who you really are. You are aware of your true self, which is Being, The Formless, Unity, Love. If you feel you are not safe you believe you are your ego, your emotions, your body/materiality, all things which you know can be taken from you. Enlightenment is when you dis-identifiy with ego and return to Being or have awakened from the dream of form.