Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb
I'm not invalidating your feelings Roxy. I'm stating the facts as I see them: you are overreacting. As in, you are misinterpreting me or the situation and having a reaction that is disproportionate to it.
Now let me critique you in turn as we are being open with our feelings. I think that calling me a sexual harasser like that is aggressive and unpleasant. Dictionary.com defines harassment as:
If I were tormenting you or bothering you continually that would be quite grave and you'd be justified to respond as you did. However, I have called you "beautiful" once and then "my lady" a second time thinking that "my lady" was completely unsexual (playful yes, but I am playful, and this has nothing to do with sexuality - I call men "good sir"). I didn't know you disliked being called that so any crime I've committed is basically ignorance of your boundaries. If I accidentally stumble across your boundaries you correct me and there are no hard feelings.
There is no call to attack me for this.
I hope you can see I care for you as a friend and that I've never had any intention to cross any of your personal boundaries. I am also not attacking you now, I'm simply marking my own boundaries. I don't want to be called a harasser and I'd be glad to call you by whatever name you want, but please don't attack me in the meantime.
when and where did I call you a sexual harasser? Didn't I just say "that is sexual harassment"?
I don't think you are a sexual harasser, just what you said to me in those 2 forum posts seemed like sexual harassment and I was pointing that out.
& you didn't call me beautiful you called me "my beautiful"
AG I am not attacking you. I didn't decide oh there's AG I think I will attack him and what he said in this thread. I felt abused and sexually harassed, maybe by a misunderstanding or maybe not, but that's how I felt, and I was standing up for my self.
When you called me "my beautiful" and I said "do you really think thats acceptable?" in the next post to me you called me "my lady" and I thought you were deliberately continuing on in calling me "my" something like you could call me anything you wanted even if it was unacceptable to me. But I might have misunderstood, maybe that wasn't your intention.
What was your intent when you talked to me like that AG?