Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb
It's not, Roxy, you're overreacting.
While I would most likely not have batted an eyelid at the comment you adressed RR, I agree that dismissing her feelings about it is not cool. She felt sexually uncomfortable and abused by the comment, and she is entitled to that feeling. Please respect that, even if you
feel the comment was nothing to get upset about.
All too often we dismiss the feelings of abuse victims, regardless of the nature of their abuse, and it's a step further in maintaining circles of abuse.
I know you're a good guy, AG, and most likely meant no harm - this is the kind of stuff we tend to do all the time until we take the conscious decision not to. I'm sure that because you're a good guy you'll agree that human interactions, flirting, teasing are a lot more fun when everybody is happy and enthusiastic about being a participant, right?