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Originally Posted by Elixir  I honestly don't understand what's so wrong with me that people don't want to make friends with me =\. I feel like I'm a pretty interesting person. I think I'm decent looking [should looks even matter in friendships...], I think I'm pretty mature for my age, and I really care about people. I go out of my way to do nice things for my friends, I always listen to their problems and give advice, sometimes I'll surprise people with nice things they didn't expect, and if they have a problem, I'll go out of my way to research on it for them and I spend a lot of time thinking about other people. However,my kindness is never reciprocated or even appreciated. I'm a nice person by default and I don't want to become a ♥♥♥♥♥ just because other people aren't nice, but how my friends don't even care about me makes me want to be a ♥♥♥♥♥. =\
I'm a teenager in high school btw...is it just this teenager 'phase' or will things get better as I get older? =\ I feel like things will never change. |
The status quo doesnt live for virtue, they live for self-worth. But when you act too nice, they don't hear "I like you-" they hear, "Please like me" which implies to them that you dont truly believe you have self worth. This is why ******** become popular despite being mean; they behave as if they have conviction of their self worth (which might not be true, but others find this attitude attractive to be around)
also, by being too nice you might be inadverdently be setting a relationship code that others dont feel they could agree with ( just as you said, your efforts are not reciprocated. we all "do friendship" differently.)
