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Originally Posted by Anxious  ...but often we get so swept away that, in the heat of the moment we engage in unprotected sex that afterward has me left worried and disappointed in myself...I'm well aware of the consequences, but when push comes to shove, rationality goes out the window and lust takes over... |
Hmmmmmm....I used to have this problem. The little "consequence" is 6'2", 210 lbs, and 22 years old now!
Other consequences - dropping out of college "temporarily" to get a job in order to house, feed, clothe and provide little consequence with medical coverage, entering the child-rearing arena while I was still little more than a child myself, driving a mini-van when I'm really much more of a little convertible kind of girl
, and putting personal life goals on hold to do all the things required of a responsible parent.
Like ZHereford says, I encourage you to seriously evaluate why you're willing to take the risk. Generally we only engage in behavior from which we receive a payoff. What's the payoff here? (Other than unencumbered hot sex, of course!)
As far as how to break the habit - try the visualization thing. Visualize no sleep for weeks on end, visualize being broke most of the time because babies are so expensive, visualize you and your girlfriend haggard and on edge, visualize an infant that cries non-stop and you don't know why, visualize the terror you can feel when you realize there's a little human who is 100% dependent on you, visualize the terror you feel when the school calls and says things like "the paramedics think they should take him directly to the ER", visualize working for less than you're worth at jobs that never fully utilize your potential because you don't have a degree...
I could go on! (Just ask my son about my infamous "It's
your sperm" lecture!)
But I will say one more thing - about your title - It won't ruin your life. It just changes it.