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Originally Posted by Wulfen  Kloudiia, caveat emptor: Franco has a very male-must-be-dominant approach to relationships. Apart that he has always been polyamorous until recently (he's happily married and monogamous now, though). |
I realise this isn't necessarily the forum to be discussing this, since a lot of readers won't have the background on who Franco is or where he's coming from. I love his stuff and think he's one of the most interesting guys on ASF, however this forum does have quite a few polyamorous people so I think it's relevant in that sense.
Where I part ways with Franco is the exact point you have identified - I'm not polyamorous "for now", or as a temporary stage - I hope I never stop being this way, and although you can never say for sure, I don't really see why this would change for me. It's not like one day I'm going to suddenly decide that everything I believe about relationships is wrong. I am poly, and always will be as far as I can make out. Franco still rocks though, and if monogamy is working for him, more power to him.
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It might be interesting for you to read this since there you will see a radical male approach to relationships. Granted, it's radical, harsh and sometimes brutal
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Cast off the social programming that says there is something wrong with being a man, and giving women what they truly want and you will see that there is nothing "brutal" about it - just as women are not "brutal" for expressing fully their feminine nature, even if men cannot always understand it and are sometimes hurt by it.
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You know what I would like to do? To take a masculine approach to relationships, but put it in more pleasant words, more or less like your blog, so I can reach a wider audience, for instance guys who think that male having the power in a relationship is sexist.
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Stop trying to reach the mainstream in a mealy-mouthed way. You will never reach people who aren't willing to challenge their assumptions, no matter how much you mince your words. What is being said is so countercultural that it requires a paradigm shift. Paradigm shifts always shock at first, until they sink in. At first it seems radical, then it makes sense, then it seems like it was always that way and then at that point the original, socially conditioned point of view seems to be the radical and extreme one.
Gonzo