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Originally Posted by Gracestars  Cloud,I could list my positive qualities now, I haven't lost sight of those, but the "negative" ones seem so amazingly abnormal, and awful, and faulty that they take over in my mind's eye. |
You already know you have positive qualities. You don't need them listed out. They don't have anything to do with what you're feeling, anyways. Like I said, your problem is that you're trying to use a barometer to tell you the temperature. You know you have positive qualities, and you have absolutely no need for your feelings to tell you that.
You just need to disconnect these feelings from those thoughts. Right now, you have feelings uselessly wired into thoughts that they have nothing to do with, and so you think that negative feelings mean negative things about you, and positive feelings mean positive things about you. This is not true. Positive and negative feelings have very little to do with positive and negative qualities.
When you disconnect them, you'll be able to think negative words about yourself without the negative feelings. You will also be able to feel positive feelings without positive words to back them up. It would be so much easier to be happy, as you want to be, without having to always think of reasons for it.
Is there any good reason why bad feelings should be used as your measure of self worth, when you already obviously have an entirely different measurement formed independent of those feelings? You don't need two different measurements, and you sure don't need to use one that you know is wrong.