Well Joe, you might as well have just called me out personally.
Dave, it wasn't my intention to be harsh with you. I realize that you are in a bit of a tight spot. If you feel that you cannot give your wife the love that she wants and needs, and you aren't fulfilled by the marriage either, then you both need a heart-to-heart about what is going on here. It would be good to discuss with your wife what you've share with us here but in depth. A quarter of a century with someone is a very long time, and you'll have to weigh your decision carefully.
Your wife said that if you could never love her the way she loves you, you both shouldn't be together. Do you think that her hope that you will love her like that is a false hope? Or do you sincerely believe that you could never give her what she wants? I'm sure you both are unhappy with the situation. But have you thought of it like this - maybe the way that she hopes that you will love her the way she wants to be loved is similar to your hope that a relationship with your ex will be as you want it to be? Are you sure it isn't infatuation?
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