Let's see... what about looking at your situation through subjective reality? Imagine for a second that the values, beliefs, attitudes, assumptions, and way of life that disturb you are
yours... instead of the normal american's. If you go with this, you might be able to look at what it is about you (what parts of your consciousness) that you need to process, accept, love, etc.
I don't know, I think you might do good reading this article from Steve if you haven't yet:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...ctive-reality/