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blueflame · 04-09-2007, 04:09 AM

Sounds to me like your mom might need some space. It is possible that you and your brother remind her of your father, so she is taking some of this out on you. If you give her a bit of time things should get better. Also, sometimes it helps not to be the strong one and show a little vulnerability. It can give someone else a sense of purpose in shaky times. Although it isn't the same, I lost my uncle at 16, whom I was very close with. Death can be difficult, but it is also a changing experience. Never forget who you lost, but try to make something positive come out of it. I'm sure that's what your father would want

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04-09-2007, 04:09 AM	#17 (permalink)
blueflame Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: east coast :P Posts: 55	Sounds to me like your mom might need some space. It is possible that you and your brother remind her of your father, so she is taking some of this out on you. If you give her a bit of time things should get better. Also, sometimes it helps not to be the strong one and show a little vulnerability. It can give someone else a sense of purpose in shaky times. Although it isn't the same, I lost my uncle at 16, whom I was very close with. Death can be difficult, but it is also a changing experience. Never forget who you lost, but try to make something positive come out of it. I'm sure that's what your father would want .