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Originally Posted by andrew  I guess I have way too high expectations. I look at people that have been friends for years and hang out all the time and expect people I just know for a few weeks to be like that. I think that's my issue, I'm expecting too much, too soon. |
High expectations...
That's my problem too. Except my expectations are about what that person values, how they act, etc. I will only allow myself to be friends with someone if they meet specific criteria. It's like I mentally put them through a gauntlet of tests and only if they pass each one would I allow myself to really enjoy that person's company. As if I'm looking for someone who is a mirror or carbon copy of myself.
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Originally Posted by Lychee Indeed we are blessed if can find one true friend in our lives. Real friends are so hard to find. I hope we all can find one. |
I've done some more thinking about this and Lychee and Placebo bring up a good point... Do you really need 500 friends? If you could find just one person, one true friend, then you're probably better off than the person with 500 friends.
For my own personal situation I think I've been looking at it the wrong way. Instead of feeling embarrased about not having a lot of friends like most people, I should consider myself blessed for having found my one true friend. That should be all that a person needs.