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Originally Posted by Betrade  All I can say is, abusive people almost never get better. In fact, they usually get worse, because when they're alllowed and enabled to get away with what they do, it's a signal to them to keep on doing it.
You never know which person you're coming home too. Will it be the "nice" person you were initially attracted to, or the psychotic, screeching lunatic who doesn't care one bit what you feel, or what you think, and takes pleasure in watching you suffer????? Is that how you want to live the rest of your life??? I bet you don't, because no one wants to live that way. It's pure hell, and no one deserves it. |
I absolutely agree.
I also agree with JHL's comments:
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Reading between the lines of your post a bit, the one thing that does occur to me is that it sounds like you feel the need to be with someone else already. It sounds like you're not that comfortable being by yourself and prefer the comfort it brings you to be with someone else.
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Please take the necessary time to heal and to learn what you will and will not allow in your life. Personally, I had to face up to the cold hard truth that although I was married to an abuser, I participated by playing the victim too much of the time. Bottom line is I allowed it to continue to be part of my life for FAR too long.