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I was married to an abusive woman, and it reached the point where she threatened to kill me in my sleep. I gave all of my guns to a friend, just in case she actually got goofy enough to try it. She was also cheating on me, and even managed to get herself knocked up by some dude she met online.

I stuck around for about 4 years longer than I should have (actaually, I never should have been with her in the first place, but by this point I had already married her), because I have two sons with her, and I just couldn't leave them. I finally did, and although my life isn't even close to where I want it to be, it's far better than living with a mentally deranged individual. There comes a point where you have to draw the line and say enough is enough.


All I can say is, abusive people almost never get better. In fact, they usually get worse, because when they're alllowed and enabled to get away with what they do, it's a signal to them to keep on doing it.

You never know which person you're coming home too. Will it be the "nice" person you were initially attracted to, or the psychotic, screeching lunatic who doesn't care one bit what you feel, or what you think, and takes pleasure in watching you suffer????? Is that how you want to live the rest of your life??? I bet you don't, because no one wants to live that way. It's pure hell, and no one deserves it.

Getting away from her was the best thing you could have done, and you're young enough to start over with a clean slate. And who cares what she's doing with her new boyfriend??? She was probably doing it with someone else before you came along, and now he has to put up with her mental problems (which will appear sooner or later; you can bet on that), and you're free from all of that, and wide open to meet a decent girl. She wasn't the girl you wanted to begin with anyway, because if she was, you wouldn't have wound up in a psych ward, and you wouldn't be posting about her here.

Count your blessings, and be very thankful that you didn't have any kids with her, because if you did, you would have had to deal with her for many years to come, and believe me, it's no fun.

I had to drive my ex around yesterday to pick up some Easter things because her car isn't running, and it was extremely uncomfortable, yet I had to do it for the sake of my kids. You'll never have to do anything like that with this girl, so be thankful you didn't drag it out any longer than you did. There comes a time to let go and move on.

If I were in your shoes, I would get down on my knees and thank god for helping you dodge that bullet. You'll live, and in time, you'll thrive. You'll be happy she's gone, and seeing her won't affect you in the least. Give it time, and keep yourself busy. I would try to stay out of her social circle if I were you, and you may even want to consider a new job if you have to see her every day. Only you can decide what do in that case, and if it's worth it to stay where you are, or move on.

I have dated three coworkers in my life, and when it's going good, things are great at work, but if things go bad, in many cases one person moves on to work someplace else. I don't reccomend it, unless the person is worth far more than the job. That sounds cold, but we have to work in order to eat and pay the bills, so we should be very careful about jeopardizing our livelihood over romance. Very often, it isn't worth it in the long run.