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Originally Posted by Oldsoul  I ask her is she loves me, and she says yes. But she does say that right now she doesn't like me. But, again we do fight alot so, it is hard to like someone that you are constantly fighting with. |
In the context of a relationship, sex is the canary in the mine. In this case, your 'canary' appears to be mortally wounded. From what you've written, particularly where I've quoted you above, it seems its not so much that your wife doesnt like sex, or doesnt want it, but rather that as a result of the conflict going on between the two of you, she doesnt feel inclined to be intimate with you.
My sense is that sex is not the real issue here, rather whatever you're fighting about is. There are deeper issues at play and sex is just one of the aspects of your relationship that is suffering as a result. Its great that you have suggested counselling to her, and its a real pity she hasnt agreed to go. But I think that if you do want a thriving sex life back, you are going to have to attempt to resolve the real issues with your wife.
I know you've probably tried, and if your wife refuses to go for counselling, then maybe you should go on your own. Steve's post was quite right - you do deserve happines and everything that goes with a healthy relationship. I would suggest you go for counselling on your own if your wife wont. It will help equip you with the tools to gain the happiness you deserve.