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Originally Posted by wolfgang  I sometimes wonder about how polarity would apply in a relationship. It occurs to me that there are concepts of givers and takers in relationships. But, also I can see that always putting the other person first is really what loving someone is. I can't imagine puttin myself first and loving someone very well, in other words. |
I don't see it that way at all. To me, putting someone else first will eventually lead to bitterness on the part of the giver who always puts someone else's needs first, like the husband who does the 9-5 job, with an hour commute each way, takes care of the kids, and never does anything for himself. It also can lead to dependancy by the taker which again burdens the giver.
I am in the most loving relationship, where both of us think about ourselves first. We make sure we take care of ourselves, and that is what makes us so deliriously happy together - because we don't depend on each other, instead we add to each other. I love him so much and we have the most amazing life together.