It's the "get over it" comment that gets me. Sex and affection are part of the marriage agreement. If she refuses to participate in such an essential part of the contract, and then also refuses your goodwill in doing what it takes for both of you to be satisfied and fulfilled, like couples counseling, then it's a unilateral renegotiation of the agreement, and your original marriage contract is no longer valid. If you wish to remain in the marriage, it's up to you to do your side of the renegotiating. Both of you need to agree and commit to terms you can live and love with.
I would go get therapy on your own first to clarify your own views and goals. Saying things out loud to an understanding and experienced third party can really help you in finding out what you really want, and what's possible for you.
Lots of good luck to you.
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