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Old 05-14-2010, 07:14 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by pyrogen View Post
For this exercise, I'm asking you to work from the top down... you are already married to the person, what is it that is making this marriage *work*?
This is a great point! I learned for myself compatibility means squat (certainly not staying power) if there's not an emotional connection that both are willing to feel and express. I always thought of compatibility as the holy grail of a relationship with staying power. Not so... or it wasn't in my case... you can approach the world in almost the same way, but if the love and passion isn't there and isn't being expressed in a way where both people feel cared for, it won't work well.

As it stands now, to me the staying power comes from practical things such as both people being responsible, purpose-driven (connected with their personal power), realistic about compromise - and then add to it a foundation of love, sincerity, generosity, responsiveness, respect, and consideration. Basically, a marriage built on the heart

But then, I would rather have a marriage built on love than one where you like many of the same things but don't have an emotional connection. To me if there is an emotional connection and both people are in touch with their personal power, the love/consideration/generosity/respect framework can create something where the other stuff just works itself out.

Glad to provide fuel for the aha, Jamie, and I meant the things I said too!
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