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Originally Posted by JAlvy  How sometimes Steve seems to write an article that lines up exactly with what is going on in life at that particular moment? What do they call that? "Synchronicity"? I suppose that would fit.
When I started on this site (end of September), I came across the "Where to Begin?" article. I began on the physical.
Stats on 10/2/2006: 185 pounds, 23% body fat
Stats as of 4/2/2007: 157 pounds, 15% body fat
I pulled this article up after my sister called me out on having a computer addiction.
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I quit my job months ago, and my savings are evaporating. I haven't even looked for work in weeks, so I suppose this makes me a"discouraged worker". I realize, that term is appropriate, because to get back in the game, I will need "courage".
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Also my social life out of college has suffered, I don't have as many friends as I used to, and I don't know any girls. Hell, I'm terrified of approaching random girls.
For those of you that have successfully moved from area to area, have you found it easy to... "transfer" the energy? It's been one of the few times I've been "in shape" in my life, and I cannot lose the progress I've made.
I'm guilty of being a self-help junkie. I'm a total... 'fraidy cat. I'd end this post gung-ho, like I'm going to tear the roof off, but I don't want to be delusional.
Maybe if I read more of "Getting Things Done", I'd make progress...
d'oh! |
Congratulations on the weight loss! I know how hard that can be.
Synchronicity indeed. I just recently came to my senses about all of this, and today I am just knocking things down left and right. (Or as we say here in college, pwning the f*** out of this moment). Normally I'm just like you - it's so much easier to retreat into what's "comforting"!
Re: the girls - as others have said, don't worry about amassing ultramega confidence right this second. Best thing you can do? Say "hey" to every single girl you see. Every one. Old, young, married, single, attractive, not attractive. They don't even have to hear it-- you can say it to their backs if they're turned around (but get used to saying it to their face). The important thing is to just condition your brain to have that cool, casual "hey" ready at all times. (Do you think "oh, that's far too easy... why should I bother?" Try it for a few days and you'll see what a difference it makes to your ENTIRE MENTAL STATE). It's ridiculously simple, yet somehow you'll just start to feel "cooler". It works!
As for all that other stuff in your life, it's true that you need to 'cultivate burning desire' (and most likely you're going to go read something about exactly that!
)... but the point is simply that you need to identify what it is you want and then take action - no matter how small, but the bigger the better - in order to achieve it. Reading a book or even Steve's site will not MAKE your goals clear to you. Only you can do that. So sit down and ask yourself what it is you want, and tear into it the way you fought with your body to make it work for you.
You didn't tolerate slacking off when you lost all that weight, so why are you settling for inaction in any area of your life?
I find the angrier you get at yourself for not doing something, the better chance you'll actually do it
Don't settle for anything but what you really want!