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Originally Posted by RawGoddess  I have a couple of major areas of my life that I have wanted to change for the past 2+ years.
For some reason, I fail to make the correct choices on a daily basis which would allow me to achieve these goals. It almost feels like I have the devil on my shoulder urging me to make the wrong choice, and he always wins!
My question, really, is - have any of you struggled in such an extreme way with self discipline? How did you overcome it?
The choices I need to make are simple, straightforward and realistic, yet I fail to make them. Instead, I make the wrong choice - a choice which is damaging on a daily basis. I am the Queen of self-sabotage. I'd be interested to hear your insights as to why I am like this - is it something to do with unconsciously believing that I do not deserve to be happy and be the person I am supposed to be?
I'm desperate to break this debilitating daily cycle. Quite frankly, I'm bored of it! 2 years of battling with myself and I am still no better off than I was 2 years ago. HELP!! |
I don't know you personally, but I can give you some advice, take it if you feel it's right:
1. Clarify what you want. This is probably the most important thing for self-discipline and motivation. Growing up is to learn to sacrifice lesser desires for deeper desires. First, know your deeper desires.
2. Create a morning ritual. It doesn't matter if you get up at 5 or at 10, create a daily ritual that makes you feel strong and powerful. Doing this was probably the best decision in my life. You ritual can be anything that makes you feel great and powerful: exercise, meditate, dance, do yoga, eat well, etc.. I personally run, do some pushups and meditate 10 minutes. That's enough for me, but do something you like.
3. Create a practice. After you decided what you wanted to do, create a pracice. Specify step by step how you are going to do what you want to do. Specify how much time you're going to spend doing it.
4. Create acountability. Write a check for you mom or a friend for a sum of money that is meaningful for you, and tell to them that the money is theirs if you don't call them daily reporting what you did. This seems hard, but this will make success inevitable.
That's all, good luck...