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Originally Posted by Liz Caitlin

*shrug* I don't keep track. I know it's under 10, but I'm not sure of the exact number. Honestly, most people I know who have had higher numbers of partners were just single for periods of time - your sex drive doesn't die when you're not in a relationship, so if you want to have sex, yes, you might rack up some numbers. It's not a big deal. There's a huge history of women being more discriminated against with that, but I think part of it is just that it's fairly easy for women to get sex, so it's not seen as an accomplishment for us, whereas with men it's perceived more as an achievement if they've slept around.

However, I recently read an article that I cannot find for the life of me saying that men are now being judged very harshly for having lots of partners in the same way that women are. And that it's both men AND women judging them harshly. Apparently the new generation is having a backlash against the Baby Boomer culture or something, and they're more conservative, and so instead of demanding the right to have sex young women are just holding men to the same high standards they've always been held to? Which is dumb, imo - can we just NOT judge people for doing something incredibly enjoyable? Lol!

Here's the article - pretty depressing in my book, if this is what young people think like:

Why millennials are so judgmental about promiscuity. - By Jessica Grose - Slate Magazine

As far as standards go, they have to be hot. And not annoying. And good in bed - I have no problem ditching a guy if he's not doing it for me before we've finished, lol. Those are my standards for one-night stands. My standards for long-term partners are obviously much higher.

Sadly, I'm not surprised that the whole purity myth ends up damaging the bos as well. I'm hoping it's a question of maturity rather than a true shift between generations, though. I know I definitely had some harsh, judgmental opinions when I was younger that I outgrew.