There are some interesting fellas on here aren't there
It's good to mingle with people who are on the same page when it comes to growth and being conscious, so it could be a good start.
Shaving the legs worked for me...but then again, I didn't do too badly when I didn't shave them either. Generally though , most men prefer shaven.
You seem to know what you don't want, so that's good, it helps with clarifying what you do want in a relationship.