My best friend is like family ( I spend Christmas with her, am the Godmother of her son).
I am not the only one to refuse to bear the burden of her choices: Her parents refused flat out to support her in shouldering the consequences of her behavior.
Yet, I feel bad about making her feel abandoned.
There is also guilt involved:
Others have expressed concern that I would act the same way with them, and "dump" them, because we project the image of the twin sisters.
This "twin" blamed me for being a narcissist, adding Narcissus didn t end up very well. She also said she "forgave" me...as if I had done something bad to her.
I am concerned she/ and the other woman will drop by my home, unannounced, and that I will not have the heart to turn them away.This doesn t seem like proper behavior with people you have held dear for years.
The thing is: the more I push them away, the more they use manipulative/ aggressive strategies to draw me in:
My best friend used her child as a lure ( Stating he had a Christmas present for me and wanted to see me).I love her kids . Yet, seeing them means seeing her.
She is very inappropriate and talks about personal, adult themed issues in front of them. I know their presence will not stop her from talking.
The other friend drops by unexpectedly and leaves notes and presents, even if I say I don t feel social.
I am wondering what, in my attitude and behavior, allows these women to treat me that way? What triggers their harassing ways?
