I came up against the same thing. The law of attraction just didn't jive with my other beliefs. I found this link in my random daily trolling,
The Secret: The Spirituality of Narcissism | Stuart Davis. Stuart Davis is a Buddhist, who is an artist for a living, selling his music(which is awesome, download his free tracks! or youtube him). He mostly bashes The Secret, but also validates the ego as a necessary part of self, otherwise it wouldn't exist in the first place. Something I had never thought of before. After reading, I came to the conclusion that even if I achieve total freedom from grasping desire, the self would still exist, and I would still exist in this dualistic world. Samsara is Nirvana. So I just take it a day at a time, meditate, and go for my dreams, trying not to be too attached to outcomes.
Edit: Just read it again. one of my fav quotes to date: "Authentic spirituality is not a vending machine that spits out cars, lovers, and shiny red bikes."