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Originally Posted by Anima  Sure, this is a distinct possibility. The question is how does one deal with that insecurity? Should one ingnore their feelings? Should they pretend to feel differently than they in fact do? By doing either of these, the individual increases their insecurity, because they are not securing who they are. The way to increase security is from within. The more we listen to, accept and continue to validate who we are, which includes our genuine thoughts and feelings, the more secure we become. The more we pretend to feel otherwise, in order to make others happy or to fit a "role" we think is good, the more insecure we become. The more we lose touch with our amazing potential deep within.
I have yet to meet a human being who does not have insecurities about their appearance or their performance in life, sexual or otherwise. |
You're right Anima, security comes from within. Loving oneself is definitely the way to go.
To fit into a "role" to make others happy doesn't give us security. In fact it makes it worse, because it makes us feel that the true us is inadequate, and we have to be someone else to fill in those shoes.
So, we shouldn't ignore those feelings of insecurity. Rather, we should work on them. There are several ways. Maybe to quote one, we can look at when we have such feelings of insecurity? What are the catalysts? If it's due to the way we look, how can we improve it? If it's due to our work performances that indirectly leads to low confidence and hence insecurity in other areas of our lives, what can we do to change it?
Hope this clarifies Anima. And btw, I'm not a fan of porn either
