Those are not friends, those are people seeking an audience for their drama and wanting you to share some with them. If you've told them flat out to stop burdening you with their issues because it drains you emotionally and they continue, you are betetr off ditching them. I had my "friend" the drama queen. Every week I was regaled by tales of her conquests, her bitchy co-workers and her sessions with her therapist. Then she'd cry when I did not do the same. When she'd leave I felt like I'd been sucked clean of all energy.
I finally told her flat out that there would be no more talk about that stuff. She got huffy with me and had a good yell, then we never talked again. I don't miss her. I'd rather have my sanity and my energy.
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The most loving person is the person who is self-centered. If you cannot love yourself you cannot love another. -Conversations with God |