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Originally Posted by herrkaninchen  the reason we break up honestly because i was a bit pushy and dont understand her.
That is the reason i guess..
I just want to approach her without her senses that I am needy and desperate( of course!) and then work out on the chemistry( yes, chemistry is the most important bit) |
I am going to be very honest here & I hope you will know this is coming from a well intentioned place on my part
I would actually suggest taking a break from relationships & working on yourself a bit.
Maybe read a bit of Steve's interesting articles. Work on some things.
The reason you came off as need & desperate was because you were. & being pushy came from that & in a way that is controlling. I would say you most likely didn't understand her & did not really get to know her & the relationship you want is probably one with someone who may not even exist. Take some time off & ask yourself what is going on with you that you would want to wean your ex back to you... I think the answers will be well worth any struggle & maybe you'll find you didn't want a relationship at all.
I would love to say it gets easier but these are things I've struggled with even in my relationship. But it's a great learning experience. Learning to love is something that is indeed challenging & worth it.