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Originally Posted by JAlvy  How sometimes Steve seems to write an article that lines up exactly with what is going on in life at that particular moment? What do they call that? "Synchronicity"? I suppose that would fit.
When I started on this site (end of September), I came across the "Where to Begin?" article. I began on the physical.
Stats on 10/2/2006: 185 pounds, 23% body fat
Stats as of 4/2/2007: 157 pounds, 15% body fat
I only mention this because I realize that I've been nearing the end of this segment, and must move on to the next. I'm scared. I've never felt so physically fit, but I know that... it is time to move on. But to what?
I pulled this article up after my sister called me out on having a computer addiction.
I quit my job months ago, and my savings are evaporating. I haven't even looked for work in weeks, so I suppose this makes me a "discouraged worker". I realize, that term is appropriate, because to get back in the game, I will need "courage".
Also my social life out of college has suffered, I don't have as many friends as I used to, and I don't know any girls. Hell, I'm terrified of approaching random girls.
For those of you that have successfully moved from area to area, have you found it easy to... "transfer" the energy? It's been one of the few times I've been "in shape" in my life, and I cannot lose the progress I've made.
I'm guilty of being a self-help junkie. I'm a total... 'fraidy cat. I'd end this post gung-ho, like I'm going to tear the roof off, but I don't want to be delusional.
Maybe if I read more of "Getting Things Done", I'd make progress...
d'oh! |
That's an amazing accomplishment that you have under your belt with the weight loss. You just have to remind yourself of that. If you can discipline yourself to do one thing, you can use the same discipline with anything else as well.
E.g., in the girls department, you do not have that much confidence right now. Instead of worrying about it or fearing it, break that into small steps and using the same discipline, attack those steps.
Break down the dating scene into such small steps that it seems easy for you to tackle them.
If you force yourself to do something, you won't do it for very long and you'll fall back. So, stretch yourself a little bit. Get out of your comfort zone but just enough that you don't experience any resistance from your subconscious mind. And once you have that, your comfort zone gets stretched a little bit, now you stretch it a little bit more.
I'll give you my example. I used to be very shy and used to actually have anxiety attacks around people. Now I do not have any problems such as that. I started by small steps e.g. asking random girls for the time. I kept that up until I felt comfortable with that. Then I increased that to have a one sentence conversation, and then two sentences and then a little more and a little more. And I hit it hard. I found out what the easiest thing for me to do which would still require me to get out of my comfort zone and I hit it hard. I'd go to a mall and ask tons of girls for time. hehehehe now if you think about it, it sounds hilarious. This young kid running around in the mall asking for time. ahhh well....
Point is: NEVER GIVE UP.
You have the discipline, you do not need to prove that to yourself again.