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Bonkers · 04-03-2007, 02:55 AM

Your thinking of it all wrong if you think nice guys are lightworkers. Nice guys are actually Darkworkers pretending to be nice.

Nice guys often do things with a subconscious intent to have sex with a girl, because this is an act of selfishness they are darkworkers. NO nice guys give flowers/gifts etc just to make a girl feel good, they do it so she wants to have sex with them.

Im very much a lightworker in PUA, although a darkworker in finances (will that clash I don't know) and I do very well with women.

Im not a guy that lavishes women with presents, flowers etc, I go out clubbing to have fun and give others a good time, whether that be women or guys I don't care, I simply make friends and have fun. Because there is no intent to have sex or get anything from them (im currently in a monogomous relationship and love it) it generates a lot of attraction.

Now im not saying being a darkworker won't work, it will and it will work very well as long as you have the skills and immediatly let the girl know of your intentions. Women love bad boys that have nothing to hide precisely because they are not hiding anything.

Many of the top PUA's I'd classify as darkworkers as they often go out with the intent of picking up and scoring with as many women as possible. There are only a few I've met who I would call lightworkers (juggler is the only major one I know).

Being alpha is generally considered a darkworker thing because alpha males are the ones that immediately as they enter a situation they let the girls know what their intentions are (they intend to take someone home tonight) .

This was actually in one of styles newsletters a while back, mentioning a guy that went out 7 nights a week doing 15 sets a night and still had mediocre success. The reason he wasn't successful is because he was a drain on the social situation, he wanted all the attention focussed on himself and didn't care what anyone else had to say, he went into every set focussed on scoring rather than providing value to the girls. This guy clearly had a case of darkworker syndrome and once that was fixed he managed to score a hell of a lot better.

To sum up, as long as you are congruent with yourself you'll score or find a fulfilling relationship, whatever you want, but hiding your true intentions won't get you anywhere.

04-03-2007, 02:55 AM	#27 (permalink)
Bonkers Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 35	Your thinking of it all wrong if you think nice guys are lightworkers. Nice guys are actually Darkworkers pretending to be nice. Nice guys often do things with a subconscious intent to have sex with a girl, because this is an act of selfishness they are darkworkers. NO nice guys give flowers/gifts etc just to make a girl feel good, they do it so she wants to have sex with them. Im very much a lightworker in PUA, although a darkworker in finances (will that clash I don't know) and I do very well with women. Im not a guy that lavishes women with presents, flowers etc, I go out clubbing to have fun and give others a good time, whether that be women or guys I don't care, I simply make friends and have fun. Because there is no intent to have sex or get anything from them (im currently in a monogomous relationship and love it) it generates a lot of attraction. Now im not saying being a darkworker won't work, it will and it will work very well as long as you have the skills and immediatly let the girl know of your intentions. Women love bad boys that have nothing to hide precisely because they are not hiding anything. Many of the top PUA's I'd classify as darkworkers as they often go out with the intent of picking up and scoring with as many women as possible. There are only a few I've met who I would call lightworkers (juggler is the only major one I know). Being alpha is generally considered a darkworker thing because alpha males are the ones that immediately as they enter a situation they let the girls know what their intentions are (they intend to take someone home tonight) . This was actually in one of styles newsletters a while back, mentioning a guy that went out 7 nights a week doing 15 sets a night and still had mediocre success. The reason he wasn't successful is because he was a drain on the social situation, he wanted all the attention focussed on himself and didn't care what anyone else had to say, he went into every set focussed on scoring rather than providing value to the girls. This guy clearly had a case of darkworker syndrome and once that was fixed he managed to score a hell of a lot better. To sum up, as long as you are congruent with yourself you'll score or find a fulfilling relationship, whatever you want, but hiding your true intentions won't get you anywhere. Last edited by Bonkers; 04-03-2007 at 02:57 AM.