Unfortunately its not as simple as that. If it were, the self-help industry would not be the ballooning giant it is.
Its not a question of simply having the knowledge and applying it. We all have access to all the fundamentals we need to know. Personal development
is not an intellectual practise - its an emotional one.
Why do people in abusive relationships struggle so much to leave the abusive partner, even though its as clear as daylight that they should? Because of their emotions. Why dont people study as much as they should to get the marks they want? Because they dont feel like it. Why dont people confront the people in their lives that they should or ask for the raise they want? Because they're afraid to. Etc.
Underpinning all of self-development is the virtue of courage. The courage to confront our emotions and to leave the safe harbour of our comfort zones. It can take a day or a lifetime for people to gather the requisite courage.
You cant get courage from a book. You cant buy it and nobody can give it to you. Thats why everyone is the hero of their own stories. Because at some point they had to find the courage to change, and thats why it feels so good to improve oneself.  |