I've noticed that you tend to write really long and detailed posts on the forum. It is a lot easier to assess someone's responses to you in an actual conversation, when you can observe, process, and adjust to the feedback you're getting. It's definitely harder when you're basically writing a great big wall o' text with no feedback until the end.
I don't think you necessarily have to use your super-intuitive-ness in order to do this though. I'm pretty sure that lower levels of intuition work okay. I know you're "an intuitive," but I'm not, but I still have intuition... do you get what I mean? (Well, I'm an ENFP and apparently we have pretty good intuition too, but I don't have to be "connected" to anything -- well, what I do doesn't sound anything like what you do, let's put it that way!) Responding to the feedback I'm getting from another person is a natural process for me, it doesn't require being tuned in to anything.
It's possible that since you have a gift for this, you never really developed the lower, more common levels of intuition. At least, that would be my guess. So unless you're actively tuned in, you're not really getting the way you come across to others.
I think the number one rule in dealing with (relative) strangers (especially on a forum) is KISS: keep it short and simple. If someone wants to know more, they will encourage you to keep going. In person/if you know someone a little better, you really can just ask them how much of your opinion they want. You're also allowed to "check in" ("am I making sense?" "are you still with me?" "is this okay?" "what do you think?" or even "how are you feeling about this?" and "do you want me to keep going?").
The number two rule is that there will always be someone somewhere who will project things onto you that you never meant. If someone accuses you of something, ask yourself "is it true?" and see what happens. If it IS true, back off and take steps to correct it. If it's not true, you have two options: 1. try to convince them it's not true (not recommended unless they're your nearest and dearest
) or 2. walk away.
Does this make sense?
And FWIW, I usually enjoy your posts.