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Originally Posted by The Cloud  You're super-intuitive about other people, I thought. Why can't that be applied to seeing how people perceive you? If you're really interested in how people feel about you, you should be able to sense it just like you sense anything else intuitively. Is there any particular reason this won't work? Is there too much interference from how you want to be perceived, or something like that? It seems to me that you should be eminently suited for figuring out what people think of you, unless you're blocking yourself somehow. |
Hehe. Well, the in-person situation happened when I was adjusting to some massive changes and not getting all my needs met. I bumped down Maslow's hierarchy at that time, and wasn't really interested in using my intuition like this. I was interested in communicating my state of being ('I am adjusting and would appreciate it if the environment was supporting me better').
Yes, in some cases I can intuit how others see me, and I may do that at times. I might find that a bit tiring, though, to do that constantly, especially now that I'm working with it professionally. (An athlete doesn't want to play the sport every second of the day - even if they say they live and breathe it they still enjoy being focused in other ways, I would think.) I get those signals in person when I'm paying attention to them, but in some of these situations it is not a real-time thing. It is feedback after the fact, and I'm not really someone who has a lot of precognitive experience.
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Originally Posted by The Cloud As for the line between seeking information vs. approval, it is crossed as soon as you have to ask which one you're doing. As soon as you ask, you are indicating that you are worried that you look like you're seeking approval, which means that you're more interested in how you appear than how you are. Of course, that's not a bad thing, because being aware of what you think about yourself is even more important than being aware of what other people think of you. |
Yep. Now, how I am still trumps how I appear most of the time. But it's also beneficial to find out ways to increase mindfulness around others' perceptions. It supports my goals.