Originally Posted by rei
Well, this has happened once in person that I know of (it was the accumulation of several interactions - and in one sense I was communicating as I intended to, but in another sense the communication did not match how I thought I came across). And it was a written situation that prompted this thread, since two can show the beginning of a pattern.
It is more like my word choice... I don't really think about it sometimes, when I could more effectively communicate congruent with my intentions if I paid more attention to it.
Same problem here. I think I'm coming across as happy and I'm (once) called condescending. I think I'm being funny and I'm told (a couple times) that it wasn't very funny. On the happy one, I was just honest in my response and on the funny, I decided not to try to force funny. So basically my state of mind comes into play.
On yours, why not try rereading your posts before sending them? Try to see it how others will read it? Usually if I do that I'm fine. It's when I don't reread and look for other perspectives that I get into trouble.