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CoachChar · 04-02-2007, 02:36 AM

Rickster,

Speaking from personal experience, what I've found is that when I don't trust a man, I have trouble sharing myself with him sexually. Perhaps this is the case with your girlfriend. You've been together for about 18 months, and about halfway into that time, the two of you were diagnosed with STDs. It sounds like she might be thinking you cheated on her and gave her a disease in addition to causing her emotional pain.

If this is the case then the two of you must work out the trust issues and repair this (possible) breach of trust before you can move forward. Have you accepted responsibility for your actions? Have you shown her, through your actions, that you will not betray her trust in the future?

I notice you have a lot of rage directed at the person who you believe passed the STDs to you. I'd look at that rage as opportunity for you to heal some issues you have with YOURSELF. This is not about that woman, whoever she is. Could it be that you're more angry at yourself than anyone else? If you have not forgiven yourself, why expect your girlfriend to forgive you?

Perhaps you'll find a way to work things out with your girlfriend. Then again, maybe this relationship is over already. Whatever the outcome, I encourage you to use this experience as a way to grow. And, as they say, be sure to "wrap it up" (use condoms and get tested) before you engage in sexual relations in the future.

04-02-2007, 02:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
CoachChar Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern New Jersey Posts: 48	Maybe she doesn't trust you now... Rickster, Speaking from personal experience, what I've found is that when I don't trust a man, I have trouble sharing myself with him sexually. Perhaps this is the case with your girlfriend. You've been together for about 18 months, and about halfway into that time, the two of you were diagnosed with STDs. It sounds like she might be thinking you cheated on her and gave her a disease in addition to causing her emotional pain. If this is the case then the two of you must work out the trust issues and repair this (possible) breach of trust before you can move forward. Have you accepted responsibility for your actions? Have you shown her, through your actions, that you will not betray her trust in the future? I notice you have a lot of rage directed at the person who you believe passed the STDs to you. I'd look at that rage as opportunity for you to heal some issues you have with YOURSELF. This is not about that woman, whoever she is. Could it be that you're more angry at yourself than anyone else? If you have not forgiven yourself, why expect your girlfriend to forgive you? Perhaps you'll find a way to work things out with your girlfriend. Then again, maybe this relationship is over already. Whatever the outcome, I encourage you to use this experience as a way to grow. And, as they say, be sure to "wrap it up" (use condoms and get tested) before you engage in sexual relations in the future.