Toaster,
It's possible that she is nervous about the whole idea of getting married right now (since she said that she doesn't want to get married soon). Maybe she's confiding in her friends about this and how this fits into her own plans. Maybe she's trying to distance herself from you a little bit to get things into perspective.
There are a lot of "maybe's" in this situation, but I think that you're reading too much into this by thinking she is losing interest. Your fear is playing a part in your conclusion. Take a step back and meditate. Sit down/lay down and calm and clear your heart and mind. When you feel still inside, ask yourself if you think she is losing interest in you and what you should do about this situation. Do not discount your opinion about her losing interest if that's what you feel - just see if it is a valid concern coming from your intuition or your fears.
There is no shame in missing someone this much and telling them that you love them.
The question shouldn't be "What is it that a guy can do to keep you interested in him?" Be who you are, that's it. If you are coming from a place of love and understanding by calling, keep calling. If you're coming from a place of fear and insecurity by calling, you should examine your reasons for fear and insecurity and focus on why you are doing this.
You love her but are afraid to lose her. Do not be afraid and do not fear. Focus on trying to be the best man that you can be and follow the values and morals you believe in, that's all you can do. You can't help it if she wants to go clubbing with her girl friends, but what you can do is control your reaction to it.
My advice to you: don't think too much over this. She said yes, didn't she? Occupy your mind with other matters and trust her. Do not be afraid or insecure. If you guys get the chance to talk, maybe you can voice your concerns and tell her how you are feeling.
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