Okay, Im in a long distance relationship right now. I have been with her for about a year and a half, and I just recently proposed to her. So now we are engaged.
Problem: We still can't be together for a while, because we are both in the military (i have been in for about 2.5 years, and she just joined about 4 months ago). Im stationed in Okinawa Japan, and she is currently in her school in North Carolina. Now... she did say that she will most likely get to go anywhere she chooses for her duty station, but she also said she doesnt think she wants to get married this soon (i suggested that we get married after she finishes her school in 5 weeks).
For the first 13 weeks after she joined, we couldnt see eachother, or talk to eachother on the phone. letters were the best we could do... and those took about a week and a half either way. after that, i saw her on her 10 days of boot leave (i took a $1300 flight back home, then bought her a ring while i was there, and proposed- she obviously said yes
) Then she had an additional 3 weeks of training where we couldnt talk to eachother. Now she graduated from that training this past tuesday.
She has called me twice since then (using someone elses phone, cuz she doesnt have hers yet... she's supposed to get it tomorrow). The first time we talked for a little bit... maybe half an hour, but then she had to go to class or whatever. She said she would call me back after she was done... but she didnt. She called me again earlier today, and about 5 minutes into the conversation, she got a call waiting beep (still on someone elses phone) she asked me to hold on, and that she would call me right back. Well... She didn't. Of course, now its night time for her, so I dont think Ill be getting a call anytime soon... i guess the best i can hope for is on her sunday morning... which will be my late sunday night.
Now... this may not sound very bad, but I get this feeling that she may be losing interest (or already lost it) in me. As soon as she graduated from her latest school, i started leaving her Myspace comments, telling her how i love her, and cant wait to talk to her again, and stuff like that. Well... I know she checked it a couple of times in there, and did not call me. Last night she went out with some friends and got really drunk... but I guess she didnt have time to call me at all that night.
I just overall feel like she has gotten tired of me or something. Maybe I've gotten boring, or something. Maybe I look bad to her because i tell her how much i miss her. I really dont know what it is... or even if im just being paranoid (hopefully im just being paranoid).
But here is the request, ladies: what is it that a guy can do (your boyfriend/fiancee/husband) to keep you interested in him? Is it possible that i can be "coming on too strong" even at this point in the relationship? should i not try to contact her everyday because that makes me seem desperate or pathetic somehow-even though all i want to do is be with her? I want all the advice i can get to help my relationship (keep in mind that it is a long distance relationship for the next couple of months at least).
If you think you can help me, you can also IM me either on AIM or Yahoo messnenger... or even MSN messenger. I really need to talk this out with someone. I love her so much, and it would kill me if i lost her. It hurts just to be without her...
Thanks for taking the time to listen to my pathetic whining
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