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Old 04-22-2010, 01:26 AM   #90 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Rockchick26 View Post
It sounds like you had a lot of support (husband, family in the Netherlands)...I've read that if you have support for your goal, you can achieve it much easier. That is a big part of my dilemma because it's me against everyone. If any one person in my family were to say, "I feel like moving to another state." I would jump for joy and start looking for a job in that state. Even if it was just my best friend. I just need that support and right now I am really facing this alone. Wow. I just imagined ALL of my options I want to do, and I imagined doing them with my friend or my family, or at least having them tell me to go for it, and I would immediately do any of them without hesitation!
HA! to support anyway...

No support what so ever.

When moving to Belgium, the friends and family here was all like "NOOOOOO you cannot go!! We will miss you!! We need you! What are you going to do there? You don't have a house, you don't have an income, you don't have friends....
Don't go!!

His dad even went as far as to say in an extremely passive aggressive way "if you go... we miss you. But I need you to come back when I have a heart attack to take care of your mother and brother"....

My parents.. well.. lets just say that support isn't in their main vocabulary. They think and truly feel that they are supporting me by pointing out all the things that can and will go wrong, no matter what I do.

Besides that they kind of hate (or strongly dislike) my husband so the fact that we would get married didn't go over well... actually, on my wedding day, my dad made a big drama in the morning because we didn't eat breakfast and then didn't speak to me for the rest of the day.... :S Nice day..

So support? HA!
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