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What people think is very transient and can drastically change.

When people become highly successful, suddenly everybody is like: "Oh I knew it! He/she had so much talent, I knew she/he was going to make it...etc..." Most of these people were the least supportive, when the now successful person, was in dire straits, struggling to keep his/her vision.

We all know of parents who swear they had "always strongly disliked" their children's spouses, when faced with the fact that the spouse was abusive.

Of course, the more you love someone, the more their opinion counts.

It's tricky not to make a person a frame of reference. If somebody's opinion is not empowering, you can either choose to dismiss it, or dismiss the person.

I try ( it's a struggle) to treat people's opinion like the horoscope, I will only believe it if it's positive. ( In my life goal of only doing and taking into accounts the things that are helpful to me.)

If it's negative but coming from someone who is wiser and has proveable success in what he/she preaches ( expert level), I will try to see it as a learning opportunity. Maybe they now something I don't.

If it's negative but with no helpful information, just someone lashing out their frustrations, I will make the conscious decision to rebel against the negative prognostic as motivation for action.

If someone tells me I can't do something, it will motivate me to do that thing. I now I don't care about the person's opinion, per se, but I will use its message to my advantage.

It's not so much the opinion, it's how you profit from it. You can choose to benefit from negative opinions.

I don't remember which famous actor enrolled in theater classes because he/she stuttered. I can imagine that there was, at the time of his/her life, some helpful samaritan who said the future star would never be able to eradicate the stuttering by taking acting classes. The negative opinion of that person, might have strengthened his/her resolve to eradicate stuttering.

In that case, the negative opinion's outcome was to motivate the actor even more.

Also, someone could have told him/her:" you know what, this stuttering is hindering your progress in life. You should do something about it. "

Maybe this opinion, which underlines a paralyzing aspect of the other person's life, could be construed as negative. However, the outcome would be the same: enrolling in the class.

Maybe, this type of advice was given by the teacher of the acting class who saw potential and knew the class would work to end the stuttering, from knowledge and expertise.