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Originally Posted by JeffS  You know, this probably isn't very comforting, but Paul Graham had a great comment in one of his essays that you really can't stop caring about what people think of you. If you did (he says) you'd be some sort of psychopath--caring about what people think is natural and a very important part of how society works.
Now, of course that doesn't mean you can't solve this problem: many of the comments above are very helpful, even if you accept that you'll always care what people think. |
Very interesting thread.
Jeff, I disagree - I would not do certain things because I have values and not because I care what another person thinks if I do that thing. I would never be mean to a person for no reason - not because people wouldn't approve but because I don't like it, and I would not eat certain things, not because someone else cares but because I do. But I see a point it could have.