Originally Posted by Lauxa
Did you ever try my negative affirmations technique? Negative affirmations
For me it has been a valuable tool at learning to direct my thoughts towards my desires. I started feeling positive results almost immediately and it's been an upward spiral from there. I haven't solved all
my problems of course, but I've been using this technique for almost 2 years to manage the worst of my negativity... and these days I am consistently feeling better, stronger, and more motivated than when I began.
Wow this sounds pretty cool...I especially liked when you said "I am not productive" because it makes you feel like crap about yourself and if you don't want that, it will give you motivation to change. I'll try it! I just thought of another thing too, along the same lines...you could imagine somebody that you look up to and respect and admire, and imagine them saying it to you. If Steve Pavlina said to me, "You are not productive" I would probably hop right off the couch and get to something, anything, as long as I was doing something!
I think you should go live on the farm, you can always visit your nephew and send him mail. Do you want to be the depressed aunt who can't get her life together or the inspiring aunt who goes after her dreams? Take care of yourself first, and you will be a bigger blessing to those you love.
Well he's only 4, he won't be able to read for a few years
But coming back to visit would cost a few hundred dollars (going by the average airfare). Some of the places I want to go are in other countries so then you're talking $1000 or more. And you don't get paid at most of these places so, it's pretty much impossible unless I can somehow work a normal job in my spare time while I'm there. I guess I could try that!
I'm really noticing how my mind is finding new ways to work through things, I think listening to that hypnosis thing is really helping. One of the things that he says is "Your brain will find new creative ways to overcome obstacles." Last night, I was so proud of myself, I made a list of each option and then I did the PMI decision maker (plus, minus, interesting) and I couldn't believe it but for my least favorite option (moving back home) I came up with 6 pluses!! But, on the flip side, I also came up with 5 minuses and those were ALL things that I felt 100% strongly about, so the pluses didn't hold a candle to them. BUT, I did come up with 4 other options and some of those are very do-able. So I'm working on my plan and I think it's all going to be ok no matter what happens!
Also, I dived back into my "Refuse To Choose" book and decided to try the exercises again (because obviously the first time they didn't work), so i'm hoping I have better luck this time, it's been a year since I read that book so maybe I've grown enough since then that it'll finally kick in now!
How much money would you need to get there?
Well if it's a place out of the country it would take around $1000 i'm guessing, and out of state a few hundred bucks, and if it's one in my state, I'd just need probably $50-$100 for gas to drive there. But the thing is, these programs only run for a short amount of time, some only want you for a few days, some a week, some a few months. So I would have to move around and find a new one when the other one is done. So that would mean coming up with a few hundred dollars or more maybe as often as every week. Egghhh this is sounding pretty hard now, how would I be able to get a job in all those places if i'm only there for a week or a month?