I have never really had close friends and I have always wanted them. The thing with me is that I am an only child and I have been sheltered all my life so I don't really know how to deal with people. I am very shy also so that plays an impact on my social life to. I usually never talk on the phone, I'm not sure why though. When I was in high school I always talked to my friends in the hallway or lunch and that’s about it. Now that I am in college I am pretty much friendless which is very sad.
Now I realize that I have to completely change the way that I deal with friendships but I don't know how or who to ask so here I am. Here are some questions on social norms when it comes to friendships maybe you guys can help me out
1) How often should I call my friends? (remember I want to have close friendships)
2) Should I be the one always making plans to meet up?
3) How else do friend stay close? (this is all foreign territory to me)
4) Sometimes when people say we should hang out are they just saying this to be polite. How do I figure out if they are being genuine.
5) When I meet someone for the first time is it ok to ask to meet up somewhere or is that jumping in to fast. (like I said before foreign territory)
6) When I meet someone new and I get their number how long should I wait until I call them.
Thanks Guys