 package of life
Meeting people that have similar interests would naturally seem easier to relate and connect to and possibly, be friends with. So if you are wanting to start a family soon, then women in the same boat (babyforum/birth experiences) would be an option for example.
There was a time when I would have liked to have met plenty of friends in a foreign country and it didn't came so easily. I felt a bit lonely then. I have come to learn to be happy by myself since and with the few people I got on with. Since I moved to another city things have changed and I have met several new friends. I wasn't looking for them and not hung up whether I would meet new people or not. I'm happy I met so many new people now, because it is fun, but I know I'm happy by myself too and that's cool. So either way it's great.
(It makes sense people rather be friends with someone who feels good within her/himself and who they can relate to rather then 'needy' people who demand attention, support and listening to etc a lot of the time. I am not saying you are or I was but I have found that generally to make sense in friendships. Good friendships are ones where things are balanced and the fun and occasional drama are part of the package of life where you help eachother versus one of you always being the needy or problem prone one. But I don't call that latter one really being a friendship anyway. It's more like a co-dependant-ship.)
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