Originally Posted by elucidate
But isn't it possible the roles can merge after a while so that there is no longer a distinction between bedroom role play and their roles outside of the bedroom? Like if one partner is used to playing the part of the dominant one, can this not confuse them so that they become unpleasantly dominant in real life?
I don't have any personal experience on this matter fyi. Sure why not. But I think the best approach would be to examine it consciously and discuss how they feel that they want to express themselves.
About your example, of course that can happen, or he can become dominant to a degree of great pleasure of both parties. Or she can become so passive that he gets annoyed by it. Or she gets so passive that she gets thrilled from just going with the flow while he discovers a deep urge to lead her. It's all relative. A person can be seen as confident and outgoing and by another as intrusive and domineering. For example.