Originally Posted by Valkyrie
Sometimes I feel like it may conflict with my sense of equal genders, feminism. I feel like I get to express femininity in these activities by teasing him, flirting, playing coy, letting him take the lead, and so forth. And I feel like he gets to express masculinity by exploring his rougher side, displaying confidence, all while it is accepted and encouraged. But I'm sometimes wondering whether these thoughts of gender expressions are the negative aspects and shouldn't be encouraged. I don't think so, but sometimes I'm more philosophical about it and want to discuss.
I've read of many that have had a desire to be submissive but felt a discord with how they were conditioned to believe in feminism, equality, and so on. The same for men that want to be dominant. Maybe you should think more about your desires and whether or not you and your partner want to express it more even outside the bedroom and in everyday life. If you think about it the ideologies that women and men should be either equal or unequal in a relationship is just that: ideologies. It is not dynamics that have been proven to be superior to each other. Having unequal roles in the bedroom or in a relationship doesn't mean that one role is better than the other, just being in an administrative position in a company isn't better than being an engineer, for example. They both need each other.
Just because equal relationships is the PC thing right now doesn't mean that it is the best solution for everybody.