Rei - You're welcome! If we have inner conflict that we hold onto (this life or from another life), we ourselves will create a karmic situation that will help us come into balance - either with the same people or a similar circumstance. We hold conflict in our etheric bodies (subconscious) until we're ready to become conscious of it and release it. The more we want to clearly see ourselves and live openly, the less there is any delineation like lower self, higher self, oversoul, subconscious/conscious - we are simply Creation living through us in each moment.
Typically when we're really done with something, the same circumstances don't come up again, and if for some reason they did, it would not trigger us at all if we have already completed with the originating issue. Some people do like to have a confirmation that something is done and might try to subject themselves to the same/similar circumstances.
I'm not trying to invalidate anyone or their work as much as clarifying what blocks us. Thanks for asking and describing more of your work. Our souls are inviolate, they cannot be hurt, distorted, etc. We can carry our conflict over many lives. We can be traumatized to the extent that we are living in a parallel expression where we don't feel we are completely ourselves. In cases of a coma, our consciousness can even be primarily in our other energetic bodies till our physical body heals. Energetic healing can be very effective. And in my experience our soul remains the same - meaning there is not something intrinsically 'wrong' with us.
Listening to our pain is a great way to move into responding! Many times we struggle against it instead of embracing it with awareness and diving deeper. I'm saying that being authentic, having a complete response now towards a certain issue, will create a ripple-effect that heals the originating issue in any life, and the affect of that is felt in all our lives. It is our limiting beliefs and internalized negative self-talk that creates our self-esteem issues - which is a wonderful flag to start witnessing to see where we are negating ourselves. How can I use this negative belief to discover what I want right now? Imagine being so internally-validating, self-accepting, loving ourselves so enthusiastically, being so present and brand new that we allow Creation to express through us in each moment. What kind of life would that be?
It starts with really knowing ourselves, giving ourselves what we truly need in each moment, and then embodying what we want from others. We can start with mapping out all of our core beliefs - sex, money, power, creativity, love, will, vision, divinity, etc. Do we feel safe and welcome? Is it okay to ackowledge our needs and ask for what we want? Can we be ourselves and be in relationship? Then we can start witnessing what goes on in our bodies - breath, posture, movement, senses - and see how that affects our emotions and thoughts, and vice versa. Just bringing more awareness to anything is going to change it.
What are your thoughts/experience?