Originally Posted by Valkyrie
What I'm interested in knowing people's opinions on is whether this can be detrimental to personal growth. I like the activity, but I'm having doubts whether it is good for me and him in the long run. Is it detrimental to personal growth to desire being tied down and controlled? Is it detrimental to act on a desire to tie someone down and control them (assuming they like it)?
No. Not saying I'm into all the crazy stuff, but I "see" why some people might even want to go the extra mile. I think it contributes to personal growth. Unless you're allowing yourself to feel guilty because society tells you it's taboo. If you're not harming anyone, and all concerned are adult, willing and happy participants, how is it hindering personal growth?
If you aren't completely free of guilt in doing it, then perhaps that is the way in which it is hindering your growth.