04-15-2010, 08:34 AM
Join Date: Aug 2008
Originally Posted by Valkyrie
Warning: mature topic.
What do you all think about bdsm, specifically bondage, like being tied up, blindfolded, etc? My partner and I participate in bondage on occasion, and quite frankly, I love it.
Normally, we share responsibilities equally. In fact, I'm probably the bossy one. But when we engage in this activity, I love submitting to him for both of our pleasure. I love the feeling of being restrained, being the object of his attention, and the physical pleasure it brings. I like a certain amount of pain, but nothing extreme. He loves the aesthetics and sounds of me in this condition, and enjoys the fact that I enjoy it. I think it helps him express masculinity as well, in a world where masculinity is sometimes difficult to express.
What I'm interested in knowing people's opinions on is whether this can be detrimental to personal growth. I like the activity, but I'm having doubts whether it is good for me and him in the long run. Is it detrimental to personal growth to desire being tied down and controlled? Is it detrimental to act on a desire to tie someone down and control them (assuming they like it)?
It would appear to me to be a growth neutral activity. I would perceive it to be potentially both detrimental and beneficial to your long term growth.