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Originally Posted by papamidnight  I came across this post to day and after reading down the list of reply I couldn't believe how many women find it so hard to be truthful. When you see a guy for the first time you don't say to your self he looks like he can hold a conversation or I can tell he has a wonderful personalty. We -both men and women size a person up the moment we see them. so no there is no one answer to the question what do women find attractive but please stop saying it depends on there personalty.
Let me tell you I know a lot of signal funny, intelligent, honest, caring, thoughtful, open minded and yes confident guys who cant seem to get a date and you know why all of them are over weight or funny looking now I'm not saying that a good looking person could not also have these traits but if you don't find some one attractive when you first meet them you will not be inclined to get to know them.
Of course personalty counts but we all want to be sexually attracted to some one who is funny, intelligent, honest, caring, thoughtful, open minded and yes confident.
If you want to test it ,think about this- two men are at the end of a bar and the bar tender tell you that one of the guys at the other end of the bar paid for all your drinks you look to see one guy is extremely attractive ( what ever you see that as) and the other is not they are both looking at you and smiling which do you hope it to be.
Need more ...ask your self this why are there not less available fat guys and strange looking geeks walking around when most of them have the best personaltys |
First... this thread is over a year old so there wasn't much point responding to it
But anyway... you are right and you are wrong...
Looks are the first thing a person sees (both male and female)... that's just the way it is. But it's in getting to know someone that true attraction can develop. Yes, I tend to be attracted to tall, good looking guys with toned bodies. But I HAVE fallen for guys that didn't meet this criteria (or who I wasn't attracted to on first meeting) after I got to know them better.
If a guy can't get a date, it's maybe cause he's going about it the wrong way. If a dorky unattractive guy approaches a girl in a bar and hits on her, he's probably not going to get far. Why? Cause he's in a situation that is visual only. However, if he's in a situation where he gets to know a girl personally and then asks her out (after they've already established some sort of connection) he'll have a better chance.
I've seen plenty of ugly, dorky guys who are married