"the way a parent considers the way they (do or desire to) control their child."
Yup, that's exactly what I'm going for.
And stuff like "may be unnecessary just as control of a rose bush is."
and "allowed to bear its fruit for the benefit of everyone."
is what I am trying to get away from. It sounds vague. Yup, it sounds nice and fancy, and makes you feel all good and tingly inside to read it
(I'll be able to explain my idea of why that happens later), but it is hard to know how to apply the advice in a discrete way, unless you can personally relate with what she is saying. Sometimes you just can't relate with what she is saying because you have not experienced the same things as she has and so it is would be hard to know how to apply it to make progress. For example, I've never taken care of a rose bush so I'd have no clue what "may be unnecessary just as control of a rose bush is." means.
What I'm trying to create is something that anyone can relate too, regardless of past experiences, because everyone has a body and emotions and internal sense of feeling.
I am separate from my mind. I am consciousness.
My mind is like another limb of me. My mind surrounds me. I tell my mind what to do so it can tell my body what to do. My emotions are not me. My emotions are just like the gauges on an engine. They are caused by the ancient brain. My emotions are going to happen when I (consciousness) focus myself on some type of sensory input and then my emotional circuitry decides if something in that sensory information applies and so fires the correct emotion. I get to decide if I want to listen to those warning signals, and then I (conciousness) focus myself away from those signals if they are causing me to make bad thoughts. Or if I want to feel happy then I know which emotions to shut off and what sensory information to focus on.
My thalamus of my brain directs where I am focused to, or wait, do I control where my thalamus points myself to, or maybe some kinda feedback, or does the thalamus decide what to send to me so that I (conciousness) look at it? Okay so there's where the argument of free will comes in. I don't know if I have free will or not. I mean I feel like I have my own free will, but then again I might just be controlled by some genetic algorithm caused by evolution, I might just be a biological robot. And I think quantum randomness just gives myself the illusion of free will. But you know, I don't really care.