You're very welcome Melchoir. Thanks for having courage to ask questions that others are not asking and can also benefit from, as well as providing your insights.
You're on the right track. Re-read the earlier answer (or any of the earlier answers) I gave you on the grid of the Akashic Records and see if it now comes together internally in a different way.
Thanks for checking out the booklist/resources page on my site. The whole site is going to change and become a few specific websites. I don't know a specific book on martial arts that shows a step by step procedure on how to manipulate the etheric body. That's usually shown by your sensei/teacher if and when you're ready - and for good reason. The old style of learning was that you spent a long time with the master so that he/she could watch you and see your true nature (i.e. sincerely want to be in service, just want special powers, want to kill someone, etc), and you learned a complete system - i.e. martial arts, meditation, mudras, healing, chanting. The books on Yin Style Ba Gua are an example of that. Having said that, with so much available these days, there is probably something on the internet.
There are certainly a large number of books out there about energy healing.
Yes, stick with something till it works for you - then at some point it will leave you when you're done with it. I did tai chi regularly as a meditation for about 10 years, and it helped immensely. Then one day it was done with me. Regarding choosing a no-mind technique - it helps to know what kind of temperment you are, then you can zero in on a method - for example, active/willful - martial arts, yoga; devotional - singing, dancing, prayer; mental - conscious movement, meditations with mantras/breath. We humans have a tendency to either not be committed enough, or to not know when to let go.